The Beginners Guide to Domination and Submissive Relationships
Getting to grips with the various aspects of domination can be quite challenging. If you’re new to the world of BDSM, it can even be overwhelming, some of it may turn your stomach, so be prepared. However, if you’re here, you’re probably already thinking about how you can extend your sexual boundaries. The willingness to try something new is always a good sign, so, we’ll do our best to introduce to what goes on inside of a dom/sub relationship.
Bringing Up the Topic of BDSM
Firstly, no matter what kinks you wish to explore, you must ensure that whatever you do is it safe and consensual. Stepping over the line into unwanted territory isn’t something you want to deal, especially since people can get badly hurt if things go wrong. Let’s not jump ahead of ourselves though, if you’re in the confines of a relationship, you may want to discuss your desire to experiment with domination.
Talking about your wants is the best way to get started, preferably you’d do this before jumping into bed; saying that though, depending on your partner, it could be a welcomed surprise to engage in light BDSM during a passionate session. Let’s be real though, most people don’t like to be blindsided, and doing so during sex can make someone feel unsafe. You both want to be aware of any and all risks going forward, risks you may not otherwise be aware of when caught up in the heat of the moment.
Setting Boundaries in the Bedroom
When it comes to BDSM, it’s important to set boundaries from the get-go. Have a safety word in place so that you or your partner can put an end to whatever’s going on when they feel as though things are becoming too much. As a beginner, don’t feel as though you have to delve into the riskier side of BDSM because somebody could get hurt if you don’t know what you’re doing; move at your own pace, there’s no rush.
Putting your partner above your own desire is what’ll make domination satisfying. After all, if you’re taking on the role of a sub, this is something that’ll be expected of you. Now, if you’re the one who’s being talked into experimenting with BDSM, don’t feel as though it’s something you have to go through with. If it’s not for you, speak up.
Trying BDSM for the First Time
Maintaining healthy boundaries within your relationship is important. If you’re only willing to try BDSM once, then once it is. If you’re only up for domination play in the bedroom and not beyond, then those are the rules. Stick to your rules and make sure you and your partner are always on the same page. Your relationship can change when introducing something like BDSM, so be aware of the risks involved when exploring this kinky world.
Master or Slave
When it comes to deciding who’ll be playing what role (dominant or submissive) you should make sure you stick to your designated character. If you’re generally the dominant one in the relationship, it doesn’t mean that you can’t take on the role of the submissive one because switching roles can sometimes be fun, so why not give it a go? The power dynamics of a relationship beyond the bedroom may indicate what kind of lover your partner will be.